The Attachment Style Quiz
Two things decide how you behave when somebody matters to you. The first is how much of your attention a small silence takes — whether a slow reply is a slow reply, or the opening page of a case. The second is how close you let someone get before something in you quietly steps back.
Score low on both and you are secure. High on the first only and you are anxious-preoccupied. High on the second only and you are dismissive-avoidant. High on both and you are fearful-avoidant. Eighteen questions, nine per axis, about four minutes. There is no neutral option anywhere in it: the mild answers still pick a side, which is the point.
This is a self-report questionnaire built on the two-dimension model of adult attachment that most published research uses. It is not a clinical assessment and it is not a diagnosis. Attachment is also not a fixed trait — it moves with who you are with and what has happened lately, so the honest reading is where you sit now, not who you are.
Questions people ask
What is an attachment style?
Shorthand for what you do when closeness is at stake. It comes out of research on how people behave when a relationship feels uncertain: whether they move toward the other person, away from them, or both at once. Most current work describes it with two numbers rather than four boxes — how much you worry about being left, and how much you avoid depending on anyone. The four named styles are the corners of that grid.
Is your attachment style fixed?
No. Studies that follow people over time find a good deal of stability and a good deal of movement, and some of it happens inside a single relationship. It also depends on who you are with: the same person can look secure with one partner and anxious with the next. Read a result as a description of the last year or two, not a permanent setting.
How does this quiz score it?
Eighteen questions, nine on each axis. Every question offers both ends of its axis, and the stronger answers count double. Whichever end wins an axis gives you one letter, and the two letters together name one of the four styles. If an axis comes out exactly level, which is uncommon, it falls to the lower end.
Is this a diagnosis?
No. It is a self-report questionnaire, which means it measures what you say about yourself on the day you take it, and people are at their least reliable about the relationship they are currently in. It is not a clinical instrument, it screens for nothing, and it should not be used to decide anything that matters. If a result lands hard, that is worth talking about with somebody, and the somebody is not a quiz.
4 possible results
Tap an answer, or press 1–4. Nothing is saved.