French Bulldog

You want to be where the people are, physically, and you would like to expend as little effort as possible while you are there. You are funny, you are good company, and you have an unusual ability to make other people slow down. None of this makes you compliant. You listen to the plan, you agree with the plan, and then you do not do the plan, and you are so pleasant about it that it takes people an embarrassingly long time to notice.

The cost lands on the people closest to you, because they are the ones who end up doing the part you agreed to. Your resistance is passive rather than argumentative, which means it never surfaces as a conversation and therefore never gets resolved — you have not refused, you have simply not moved. The other thing is that comfort has quietly become the criterion for most of your decisions, and comfort is a poor guide over a span of years. Saying a clear no would cost you one awkward minute and save someone else a month.