Mixed Signals

Signal strength — Medium, and it changes by the day

What's probably going on — Some days she's all in: long texts, the seat next to you, laughing at everything. Other days she's somewhere else entirely. Hot and cold can mean a lot of things. She might be unsure how she feels, worried about what her friends think, dealing with a lot at home or school, or enjoying the attention without meaning more by it. The quiz can't tell those apart, and honestly, neither can you from the outside. That's the point where guessing stops being useful.

Signs pointing yes

· On her good days, she clearly seeks you out

· She sometimes remembers small things you said weeks ago

· She watches your stories fast, even when she's quiet

· She's sat close, hugged you, or bumped your shoulder when it was just you

Signs pointing the other way

· Long silences right after a great conversation

· Around certain people, she acts like she barely knows you

· She says “we should hang out” and it never happens

· She's warm when she's bored and distant when she's busy

What to do next — Stop decoding and make one simple, specific plan: “Want to go to the game Friday?” A clear question usually gets a clearer answer than months of reading replies.

What not to do — Don't copy her hot and cold to see if she notices. Playing the same game back makes the signal noisier, not clearer.

One line for you — You deserve an answer you don't have to decode.